Just a few notes on intimacy in marriage. I can't say a whole lot about this on this page, but I do want you ladies to know how very important this is in marriage. (I'm sure you've figured this one out already!) I am a firm believer in giving your husband something to come home to. I believe if you keep him happy at home, he'll not want to stray. By no means am I saying that if a man is unfaithful it is the wife's fault. That is NOT what I'm trying to say. I just think there is a much better chance of keeping him at home if he has something interesting and exciting to go home to. (Got it?!)

I can think back to many times when I had to get "creative" with my "man" in order to keep life interesting for him. There was the time that we had very busy schedules and hadn't spent much time together. So, I called his office, talked to his secretary and made an appointment with him under an anonymous name. He comes strolling up to this hotel to meet this "old lady" who needed financial counciling and there I was in a room with flowers, candles and wine. (You get the picture!) We spent a wonderful weekend relaxing and enjoying one another. He was totally shocked and talked about that "appointment" for many years. What I'm saying is that you have to be creative, ladies. I know how hard it is when you have little ones or even older children and you are exhausted at the end of the day. But, remember his needs as well as your own.

We tried to make it a habit to have at least one date a week. And, believe me, that wasn't easy to carve out of our busy schedules with all our children and other activities that we were involved in. We decided early on that it was good for our entire family if we had our relationship intact. I believe that's one of the best things you can do for your kids. They love to see mom and dad loving each other.

My Notes on Raising a Husband and Family