I had another thought on communication that I believe is worth sharing. A good way to improve communication with your spouse is to use only words that are good for the edification (building up) of your spouse. The scripture speaks of the mouth speaking what fills the heart. If our heart dwells on bitter resentment or uncontrolled anger, then the words we speak will be full of attacks, slander and hurtful accusations. If our heart dwells on Christ as our model for love and forgiveness, our words will be tenderly gentle, kindhearted, forgiving, with the heartfelt purpose of edifying and encouraging our spouse. The Bible warns us to not let any unwholesome word proceed from our mouth. Our purpose should be to bless our spouse with our words, paying close attention to the need of the moment, giving grace to our spouse through our words. Proverbs 15:1 says that harsh words stir up anger. Later in the 15th chapter of Proverbs, it is stated that a timely word that is full of tenderness and compassion is delightful. Let our desire be to bless our spouse with words that build up and encourage.

I would like to recommend a book for your reading. It is titled "Families Where Grace is in Place". This is one of the best "family" books I've ever read. Of course, it talks about giving grace in your family life. It is well worth the read.

We'll talk more later.